1. If he doesn’t answer, don’t keep sending texts. If he wanted to talk to you, he would’ve responded.
2. People will make time for you when they care about you. If he says he’s too busy or constantly cancels his plans, he doesn’t care. People fight for you when they care.
3. Don’t let him touch you on the first date. If he tries, he’s not there for the same reasons you are.
4. You can tell a lot about a person by their favorite book.
5. If he can stomach more than ten straight shots without feeling a thing, he drinks too much.
6. Ask the uncomfortable things. When was the last time he was so high he couldn’t speak? What does he regret the most? Does he drink to remember or to forget?
7. Don’t send pictures unless you want to. If he has to talk you into it, don’t do it. If you hesitate, don’t do it. If you do take a picture, don’t include your face. Keep yourself safe.
8. If you can’t laugh when you’re having sex with him, maybe you aren’t sleeping with the right person. Sex isn’t about tricks and tips and routines.
9. If he hurts you, cut him out. He’s gone, he isn’t coming back, and you don’t need to prolong the pain.
10. Don’t be afraid to open up again. I promise not everyone will love you with a knife behind their back.” — Boy advice from someone who made the same mistakes too often (via guiseofgentlewords)
Everything Beyonce does is careful and thought out. Her entire image is perfection crafted from planning ahead. She does not ‘wing it’ or throw things into her performances and public appearances ‘just because’.
What she did at this award show was amazing, especially because of how intentional and thought out it clearly was.
Feminism is a scary word for a lot of people. Many women are afraid of calling themselves feminist because they think it implies anger, hatred of men, or a rejection of traditional femininity.
Beyonce presented everyone watching with two distinct images of what many viewers viewed as two very different women. There is the strong, independent FEMINIST. She is the woman who likes being in control and being in the spotlight. Then there is the WIFE and MOTHER. She is soft, sweet, smiling at the husband and child you can tell she loves and values so much.
For every girl watching who was afraid to be a feminist, afraid to be powerful, because of what she thought she would lose, this is an incredible message. You can be all the things you want to be. You can be both. Feminists can have amazing happy, full lives full of both traditional and modern womanhood.
Feminism means gender should not be a source of persecution or a restriction of your choices. Feminism mean the type of person you should be is based on what you value, not what outside forces pressure you to value because of your gender or biological sex. Shout at the top of your lungs that you are a feminist and proud. Then go and be the exact person that you want to be.
Perhaps even more poignant is that this clear declaration of her feminism came right after her performance of Partition - arguably the most sexual and explicit of the night. It is not an accident that immediately after that song we were treated to Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie telling us that “We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.” It was so clear, deliberate, and freeing.
I’ve seen far too many people saying narrow minded things like “Beyoncé basically did a burlesque show…it was disgraceful” or that she was “too sexual” and that she can’t be a role model for young girls and women because she embraces and doesn’t hide her sexuality (how do they think she was able to produce the perfection that is Blue Ivy?!).
It was just so clear that Beyoncé was saying that she and every other woman on this planet is allowed and should be encouraged to embrace and be empowered by their sexuality without being made to feel shame or believe that they have to be covered from head to toe and eschew their sexuality of they identify as a feminist. I appreciate Beyoncé so so so much for choosing to send that message on such a large scale.